Every time a thought like “Don’t trust them; you can’t trust anyone,” or “They don’t love me; they’re just going to hurt me,” pops into your head, dismiss the thought by saying something like, “That’s just the fear talking,” or “This isn’t my past relationship,” to yourself.
It’s really tough to fight strong feelings that you have for someone who is off-limits, not right for you, or who has come into your life at a bad time. If you’re trying to resist falling in love, search for independent fulfillment in your life and distance yourself from the person you have feelings for. Once you’ve found the right person and you’re ready for love, work on accepting and embracing it.
1. Focus on your personal goals.
Put the energy that you would spend on a relationship into bettering yourself. Make a list of some ways that you could improve yourself, and then pick one to work towards that you think will really help you to feel happy and proud of yourself. Develop a schedule and/or plan that will help you accomplish this goal and stick to it
Make a goal to advance in your career or improve your grades at school.
Make a goal to get into better shape. For example, commit to going to the gym 4 days a week
2.Spend time with your family and friends.
Everyone needs to socialize with and feel supported by others, whether single or in a relationship. Do fun activities with family members and close friends that you enjoy spending time with so that you feel connected to others without being in a relationship. This can be beneficial whether you’re going on a walk with just your mom or are bowling with 15 of your classmates. However, it might be a good idea to steer clear of spending a lot of time with couples as a “third wheel,” as this may make you feel lonely and/or left out.
3. Tap into your creativity. It can feel very empowering to be in touch with your ideas and intelligence. Creating anything you’re passionate about will allow you to express yourself, which may help you feel happier. Sign up for that improv class you’ve been putting off or work on a couple of short stories in your free time if you love writing
4 . Ignore your inner critic. For one reason or another, many people resist falling in love. If you really care for someone in your life but you’re struggling to commit to loving them, your own thought processes are likely to blame.